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« Last post by Mahmud on March 12, 2012, 09:44:12 AM »
By Mark Brandenburg
How to teach kids values
1. Tell them your life stories and teach through your stories
Kids love to hear stories about your childhood. Weave in some moral dilemmas and youve got great opportunities to teach values to them. It certainly beats lecturing your kids!
2. Live your own life according to your valueswalk the talk.
Kids learn by imitating, especially at a young age. They are very adept at seeing if what you say and what you do are matching up. Dont give them confusing signals; follow your own values every moment.
3. Expose them to your religion or faith
It seems especially important today to let them know that theyre not alone. Providing your kids with a community of faith will strengthen their values and provide parents some leverage
4. Pay attention to who else might be teaching values to your kids
Get to know your childs teachers, coaches, relatives, etc. Anyone who spends time with your kids may be influencing them. Know their values and beliefs as well.
5. Ask your kids questions that will stimulate dialogue about values
Telling them what values they should have wont always be effective, especially when your kids get older. Asking them curious questions will allow discussions that will eventually lead to values. What did you think about that fight, may be more effective than, He shouldnt have started that fight!
6. Talk to them about values in a relaxed and easy way
Nothing will turn your kids off more than preaching values to them after theyve screwed up! Talk to them when everyones relaxed, and do it in a light, conversational manner. Theyll be much more likely to be listening rather than tuning you out.
7. Read them fairy tales when theyre younger
Fairy tales capture the imagination of kids and can easily lead to a discussion of values. Kids will learn the most concerning values when theyre excited about the topic.
8. Involve your kids in art, activities, or helping others while limiting TV and video games
Kids learn values when they experience them. Allow them to experience helping others and involve them in activities that will expand their creativity.
9. Have frequent conversations about values in your household
This lets your kids know that its important and its not just something you talk about when they do something wrong.
10. Have high expectations for your kids value systems
Kids will tend to rise to the level of expectation you have for them. Their value system will often reflect yours if the expectations are high.